7 Ways to Make Friends as an Adult
I moved halfway across the country when I was 19 and found it hard to find and make friends. Here are some of my tips for finding and keeping friends as an adult!
Community College + University. A great way to make meaningful friendships is through school! I have made many dear friends because I actually went to three schools! The key is to be patient with busy/demanding schedules and remain consistent or persistent. But not creepy.
Meetup! I have made multiple friends from meetup. We like to go to the beach, check out local bars, grab lunch, hike and shop together! I can trust them with the highs and lows in my life. These relationships can seem awkward at first, but if you are open and willing to develop friendships, it is so worth it. I also have acquaintances through meetup so that I recognize familiar faces when we get together.
Church! I have made lots of friends all over the country through church.
EF Ultimate Break/Travel/Staying in Hostels. I have made so many friends who I cherish and check in with regularly through traveling. When you are together all day every day for a week or two you really get to know one another.
Work! I know I know you’re there to work and not make friends, but hey if you happen to make a buddy what’s the harm?! Work friends are great. And make the day go by faster.
Volunteering! I am a volunteer with Planned Parenthood and I have made friends through our many events and various programs.
The gym/yoga/rock climbing/workout classes etc. This is a great way to spark a conversation with someone who is guaranteed to have at least one similar interest to you.
Finally, a note about retaining and remaining friends. Not all friends deserve you or your time. Though it can be hard, it’s good to cut out those who are emotionally draining or damaging. Some friends deserve more of your attention and care. Be aware of your needs too! What are you craving from your friendships? Who do you want to be in your life? Be patient with making friends and know that quality is greater than quantity. Be a good listener and expect the same love in return. Pour out and look for those who will pour into you as well.
